To Nick Evans: I'm sorry for saying the things I said. I didn't realise that it would hurt so much. I was being sarcastic at your expense, because I really hated the name calling in a post you wrote. I will refrain from being sarcastic at your expense in future, and I'm sorry it hurt so much.
What I said originally that hurt him (so that we're clear) is this: http://gillpolack.livejournal.com/871811.html in October 2011: "Also, watch Cranky Nick's blog, for last time I did a post like this he disliked it. This year I'm actively collecting adjectives about me from people who I've never met and so I await his comments with interest. I mentioned my own work in the post I did last year, so let me do that now, for consistency. All my published work for 2011 is non-fiction and not eligible for Aurealis. All my personal favourite essays/reviews are on BiblioBuffet this time around. My personal favourites, however, are of pretty limited use, as they are what I like of what I've written."
And this (on Twitter 21 March 2012) - "Careful CrankyNick will call you vile names!"
And, finally, yesterday, I wrote a third comment. I wrote it immediately prior to sending him that apology and before he wrote me a second letter.
What I said yesterday did not use any names, if you will remember, for I was about to write an apology (which I did) and I was expressing my upset about the whole thing. Just to make it really clear, the only things I said about Nick Evans were the above. In his first email, Mr Evans called me an 'arsehole.' He stands by his language because the below was unacceptable.
"I started today with an email in which I was called names. I'm so not going into it except that I am not guilty of what I am supposed to be guilty of and it topped off my week (and now the person is going to be upset that I mentioned it in public, even though I have not said who it is or what they were talking about - this is, after all, one of those months). Normally I would just bite my tongue, but I suspect I'm a bit closer to the edge than I want to be. My eye and teeth are making my body vulnerable, the thief made my physical surrounds vulnerable and now my character is vulnerable. Also, I have PMT and things *hurt*."
Now you have the whole story from my end, except the private letters. This will make it easier for concerned parties (and I assume that there are concerned parties, otherwise he wouldn't be so upset) to make their own minds up on the issue.
I am sincere about the apology, and won't be posting about him again.
ETA: I have been asked about this and so a clarification is necessary. My permission was not sought before my private correspondence on this matter was made public.